Post by Ashy Olawale Yusuf (@ashyolawale1)

*MONEY & RELATIONSHIP 2*

Alright let's move on.

This morning, I made series of write ups concerning relationships and money, and why y'all need to dissociate money in a relationship.

And I also said a high valued man is a masculine man every women will largely go for.

I really do not care how some of you took the write up but what I will like to say to young single men is that they need to start re-orientating yourselves. You know how easy it is for you to get ladies when you dangle money on them.
Unfortunately, both men and women are “enablers” of this.

The fact that women love money & men are supposed to be providers doesn't mean it should be abused.
The more you abuse it, the lesser you find true value in each other.

You have all the time to experiment in relationships.
Don't make money the focal point in winning a woman's admiration.
You will not value her no matter how pretty she is.

Young ladies really need to tame their love for material things & show men why they're worth the chase.
Poverty has been in existence since creation of mankind, so it's never an excuse.
But poverty of mind is self inflicted injury.
As long as you can afford anything with money, that thing is cheap to you.

Take the pains to date without flaunting money & see how beautiful relationships can be.
It's where a man's heart lies that he will spend his money without feeling disgusted.

This is why getting a man's commitment is the most expensive thing a man can give to you as a woman.

Not his money.

He can give money to several ladies as he wishes.
Let there be a difference between his relationship with a prostitute and his relationship with you.

Let him work hard to win your desire.
Let me direct a pertinent question to you men.
“If you as a man of this generation is far richer than your father, how come you're divorced and your father isn't?”
Why didn't your money keep your wife?
Does she not love money anymore?

Because if she was in for the money, she will find a way to make sure the marriage works.
Isn't a woman you're spending on supposed to worship the floors you walk on?

You can see that while money is important in marriage, it takes much more than money to keep that marriage?
And these things are mostly learnt during the courtship stage.
Also, if you as a man fails to see your wife high above the money you give her, she is not likely to stay with you.

At some point, she will need much more than your money.
And if she continues to stay, she will only be using your money to satisfy her wants but she has emotionally checked out.
So for you in relationships, it's why you will come to complain that “after all you did for her, she still left". And what will she tell you?
“what did you do, that other men don't do for their ladies or even more?"

You see that for women, they are more loyal to their feelings than your sacrifices?
There will always be men that can spend more than you.

There will always be men who can do what you think you're doing, just to sleep with her and will not find her worthy after sleeping with her, & will go for another woman to marry.

So when some of you talk of “high value" men, I begin to wonder.
What exactly makes you a high valued man?

Is it that you're above making any mistakes in life?
Is it that you have made the highest money in the world that no man has ever made?
Is it that you're so handsome that no other man comes close?
What makes you high value is quite subjective & it differs from men to men.

If you can successfully build a healthy relationship with your girlfriend, you're a high valued man to her.
And because she sees you that way, she will respect you and close her eyes from other men.
No matter what that man is dangling on her face.
You cannot satisfy or buy a woman's desire with money.
You'll only get a temporary feeling of gratitude and she's on to the next one or looking forward to a bigger one next time.

Don't make her cheap to you.

Make her priceless & make her the envy of other men and women.
Brag differently & be happy with your choice.

🖋️ AshyOlawale1
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