Post by Festus 'Femmy AYESA (@Olorunfemmy)

1. NEVER BE ALONE WITH A WOMAN WHO ISN'T YOUR WIFE: I don't care how spiritual she is. I don't care how long you have known her. I don't care if she is a widow, choir leader, prophetess, church worker, financial supporter, or prayer warrior. Never deliberately put yourself in a situation where you are alone behind closed doors with a woman who is not your wife. The temptation may not come from you. The accusation may not even be true. But once the story leaves the room, you may spend years trying to defend yourself. Protect your integrity before you need to defend it.

2. BE CAREFUL HOW YOU HELP VULNERABLE PEOPLE: Widows need help. Orphans need help. Single mothers need help. The poor need help. The church must continue to care for them. But never turn compassion into a private, unaccountable relationship. Let assistance be structured. Let leaders know. Let records exist. Let there be witnesses where necessary. The fact that your intentions are pure does not guarantee that the outcome will be safe.

3. NEVER ALLOW EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENTS To DEVELOP WITHOUT LIMITATIONS:

Not every church member who calls you "Daddy" sees you as a father. Not every spiritual daughter sees you as a father. Emotional dependency is one of the most dangerous traps in ministry. The devil rarely begins with immorality. He often begins with sympathy. Maintain healthy boundaries.

4. NEVER EVER BORROW MONEY FROM MEMBERS: Financial entanglements have buried many ministries. The day a member begins to finance your survival, he may begin to think he owns your voice. A pastor under financial bondage can easily become a pastor under manipulation. Plan your life. Live within your means. Trust only in God- Psa.62:5.

5. DO NOT BE PUSHED TO SHARE FAMILY SECRETS WITH MEMBERS: Not every listener is trustworthy. Today's comforter may become tomorrow's accuser. Guard the privacy of your home. Protect your marriage. Protect your family. Not every member should know what happens behind your front door.

6. STOP EXCESSIVE FAMILIARITY: Familiarity weakens honour. Familiarity destroys boundaries. Familiarity creates opportunities for misunderstanding. You can be friendly without becoming common. You can be approachable without becoming careless.

7. NEVER MAKE MEMBERS YOUR DOMESTIC SERVANTS: Be very careful. The sister who washes your clothes today may accuse you tomorrow. The lady who cooks in your house every day may tell a different story in the future. Avoid unnecessary dependence on members for personal domestic matters.

8. NEVER ASSUME EVERYBODY LOVES YOU: Some people clap for you publicly while opposing you privately. Some celebrate your success while secretly hoping for your downfall. Love everyone. Pray for everyone. But trust wisely. Remember, even Jesus had a Judas among the twelve.

9. BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL WITH GIFTS: Not every gift is appreciation. Some gifts are baits that create expectations. Some gifts create control. Some gifts become future evidence in the hands of offended people. Receive gifts with wisdom and transparency.

10. NEVER FIGHT CHURCH POLITICS CARELESSLY: Not every battle is spiritual warfare. Some battles are fueled by jealousy, insecurity, ambition, and power/position tussels. Walk carefully. Speak wisely. Document important meetings.

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