Post by Adeyemi (@adeyemitalabi)

I am soooo…selfish 🫣‼️

I first noticed this when I sat with it honestly: one of the things I love doing is giving — my help, my resources, my time.
But why am I always so eager? Not really because of the person I’m helping. It’s because of what their happiness does for me🫣. Seeing someone happy BECAUSE OF ME, makes me happy.

Do you get it?

ISN’T THAT ACTUALLY SELFISHNESS ❓
Even the dictionary defines selfishness as putting your own needs, wishes, or gain before the well-being of others.

Let’s be honest — isn’t this true?

There’s a hidden truth behind almost everything we do: it gives us satisfaction.
A guy wants his girlfriend to look good SO OTHER GUYS ENVY HIM — IT’S ABOUT HIM, not really about her. And it works both ways.
A parent wants their child to be the best-performing student partly because of the glee it brings them. (Yes, the child’s future is more secure — BUT LET’S BE REAL , WHAT’S THE ACTUAL FIRST REASON❓)

Why are we all so self-centered❓
Why do we want everyone around us to live a certain way just so we can feel satisfied❓

Na wah oh‼️

I am soooo…selfish 🫣‼️ I first noticed this when I sat with it honestly: one of the things I love...

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Mild Uchenna: There is much sense in this write up.
Mild Uchenna: Partly true, but I wouldn’t call every act of kindness selfish simply because it makes us feel good. The fact that giving brings us joy doesn’t cancel the value of what we gave. Human beings naturally derive satisfaction from helping others. The real question is whether we can still give when there...
Parent Push: Good morning my blvd , sometimes we are so selfish because of what we want to achieve. Sometimes we parents are funny just because Mr Obi Son or Daughter is reading an engineering course then we want our children to read engineer as well . God help us to let people be themselves.
Cephason Skycruz Kings: I see it differently. If your happiness comes from making someone else's life better, that's not selfishness—it's compassion with a healthy emotional reward. Everyone wins, and that's a beautiful thing. ❤️
Cephason Skycruz Kings: Interesting perspective. I think there's a difference between selfishness and finding joy in doing good. If helping someone genuinely improves their life, and their happiness also makes you happy, that's not necessarily selfish—it may simply be how empathy works. Kindness doesn't become less valuabl...
Ibukunoladunni: Na real wa
Adesanya Ayotola: I think you've touched on something real, but I wouldn't call it selfishness outright.

Human motives are rarely pure. We often experience joy when others thrive because we played a part in it. That doesn't automatically make the act self-centered—it may simply mean we're wired to find fulfillment i...
Anusha: Me too!!
Comfort Yako Asala: There's a lesson here to limit the emotion that surges high (though harmless) when seeking the best in others as it may lead to pride and self aggrandisement.
CSO intl: This is deep to understand everyone should go for what is best for their love one