Post by Rejoice Obiageri Ibe (@reessignature)

One thing about me? I don’t really like confronting people about things they did that hurt me.

I’ve seen friendships go completely south after someone finally spoke up, so sometimes I’d rather just let it slide.

But if I’m being fair, I think those conversations are actually the fastest way to know where you stand with someone.

If I tell you something you did hurt me and your first reaction is to dismiss my feelings instead of trying to understand them, then maybe we were never as close as I thought.

Nobody gets it right all the time. We all make mistakes. But if my feelings don’t matter to you, then we no suppose be friends naw.

What’s your take? Do you confront people, or do you just quietly distance yourself?

One thing about me? I don’t really like confronting people about things they did that hurt me. I’ve...

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Obafemi EMILOLA, FIMC, CMC®: I mostly do the same way, I believe so much in good and free relationships where we can all relate without any grudge
We must understand that people are different in behavior and beliefs
LekeeLekee User: First of all your feelings matter to me 😍

As for me I believe in talking things out
Blessing Ojoma Onakpa: I think it depends on the relationship. If someone genuinely matters to me, I would rather have an honest conversation first because people aren’t mind readers and sometimes they don’t even realize they’ve hurt you. Their response to that conversation often tells you everything you need to know.

If...
chrisdave's tv/comic: oops 😬 was that why u broke up with me😏😏
Etiko Abideen Babatunde: nice jewelry
Promise Hart: Simple, sometimes we need to speak our mind
Mild Uchenna: It depends on the situation. Sometimes I'll speak up, but most times I choose to let it go, learn from it, and move on with the friendship. Not every hurt is worth losing a good relationship over.
Gladden Ngozi: If I quietly distance myself, it means I have already mourned the relationship.

But if I bring myself to talk to you about what hurt me, it means I still value what we have and I want to preserve it.

However, if I finally open up and realise that my feelings do not matter to you, I don’t just mour...
Oturohweroro Andrew: I may not call it confrontation but a talk.
It's important to have that talk to get a cleared picture of the relationship.
Comfort Yako Asala: That's a healthy way to keep a relationship.
I distance myself.