As a husband, you bring your mother to stay with you in your home.
Then your wife brings her own mother too — without really discussing it with you.
You’re not comfortable with it and you ask her to send her sister back, but she refuses and says:
“If your mother can stay, mine can stay too.”
Now it becomes a standoff.
From one angle, you might feel disrespected because she made that decision without your agreement.
From another angle, she might feel like you’re being unfair or controlling.
And if we even bring law into it, the person who owns the house may have the final say… but is marriage really about ownership?
So what’s the right move here?
Stand your ground as the husband…
Or compromise to keep peace in the home?
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Ink & Soul ✒️✨: Funny enough, if I am any of the "mother's" I will beg to take my leave. If I can convince my co in-law to leave too, I will🫢
I can't shout mbok. My daughter or son need their peace but I will definitely lecture them to never allow third parties or their ego come between them before I leave.
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Chizoba Ezunu: Interesting topic.🤔
Joseph Udeagbala: The woman who bought her mother without the husband knowing is by far disrespectful and doesn't want peace in the house. However since two wrongs can't make a right, I can allow the two to stay but after will set the tone of the song to be sang by everyone in the house
No_choice: The man shouldn’t have started the convo at first . All blames to the man
No_choice: And why will the man ask her wife to send her mother back . That pretty wrong no matter what that should be after both left . Then the man have words with her wife … no man should send her mother in-law back . No matter how she came to your house
Alice Samuel: I don't see anything wrong with the man bringing his mom to stay with him and his wife, that is if the mother is unwell and needs proper care, if not please both mothers should stay at their husbands house until omugwo for peace and sanity.
Lola: Marriage is about conversation to be fully aligned. This will help mitigate such sinairo. Both of them are wrong in their approach and may be healing for a show down
Amara Edih: The answer to this question is a question. Did the husband told the wife before bring his mother over? If yes, the wife mother have to go, because he showed her the respect before bring his mother. My father always say marriage isn't about love is about #Respect# once there is Respect in Marriage it...
Eddy: Compromise to keep peace in the home for now, and then have a better conversation with each other before taking decisions that affect both of us in future.
IPKISS: We all need each other to function very well
